{"id":448,"date":"2016-04-03T20:39:33","date_gmt":"2016-04-03T20:39:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.kneelingbeforehim.com\/?p=448"},"modified":"2016-08-24T19:57:46","modified_gmt":"2016-08-24T19:57:46","slug":"the-beginners-guide-to-pillow-talk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kneelingbeforehim.com\/?p=448","title":{"rendered":"The Beginner’s guide to Pillow Talk!"},"content":{"rendered":"

It is well documented that the biggest sexual organ in either a male or
\nfemale’s body is not what is between our legs, but what is above our neads, the
\nbrain. “Dirty Talk” or “Pillow Talk” as I call it here is one of the various
\ntools found in the dominant’s toolbox. Not only is it a great way to arouse a
\nsubmissive, but it can be very useful for a beginning couple as they work to
\nnegotiate and get to know each other.<\/p>\n

Think of this senario for example: Your dominant coming close to you,
\nbringing his lips to touch your earlobe, whispering words of intimacy to you.
\nThis person being so close, the sensation of the warmth of his breath, or the
\ndeep erotic feeling which runs down your spine and out through your entire body
\nof a shared hushed erotic secret?<\/p>\n

Erotic Talking during “foreplay” or even throughout the entire scene arouses
\nthe mind which triggers just about everything within our body. Remember, that
\nour mind is our major processing center of our entire body. What we smell,
\ntaste, feel, see and even hear is all processed by our minds. THat is why we can
\ncry at a sad story, or feel fear from a scary movie, or laugh at a joke. Our
\nbody physically responds to what our senses pick up. This is an important
\nconcept for Dominants to be understanding of.<\/p>\n

Some people can be very closed off to dirty talk. They feel shy or nervous,
\nbecomming very uncomfortable with the idea of dirty talk. Never fear, even for
\nthose who are very shy, adhering to few tips of the trade, you can become quite
\nan expert to this trade.<\/p>\n

    \n
  1. First and foremost relax yourself by taking a deep calming breath and
    \nlet it out slowly. I tend to use this as a trigger for myself to place me
    \ninto the space. When you begin to speak, use a very soft and low confidant
    \nvoice. Enunciate your words as you speak. Remember that assertiveness and
    \nconfidance are the keys to any submissive’s mind. By doing this, you are
    \nusing your very voice to bring her closer to you both pysically and
    \nmentally. Your building a want inside her.<\/li>\n
  2. Your playing with senses here and multiple senses at once can pull a
    \nsubmissive towards you deeper. As your using sound, use the sense of touch
    \nalso. Use your lips to touch gently against your ear, allow your breath to
    \nflow from your lips to brush over her ear. This can sometimes even be a
    \ntrigger for some submissives. Use your hands while your doing this. Two
    \ngreat places to start are the girl’s breasts and her neck. Don’t necessarily
    \ngo straight for between her legs, take time, your building the scene up
    \nright now, so don’t be so quick for physical pleasure.<\/li>\n
  3. Start out very simple using the strong power of suggestion. Speak about
    \nhow you will slowly undress her, how you will remove each bit of garment
    \nfrom her body. Use this to build ideas for the scene to see how she will
    \nreact. As you get better at this, you will be able to add aspects to the
    \nscene, suggesting what you *MIGHT* do to her. You don’t always have to be
    \nspecific or even do what you suggest, this is all about suggestion here.
    \nYour plucking the strings of her body. This is also a good way to gauge her
    \nreaction. Does she moan when you speak about flogging her, does she whimper
    \nwhen you talk about sliding a knife over her skin? Does she freeze up? This
    \nis a great way to introduce new ideas and see how she might react to them,
    \nand then you can judge whether or not you wish to bring things aspects into
    \nthe scene itself.<\/li>\n
  4. Use different types of suggestive phrases like “I want to feel the
    \nwetness on the tips of my fingers or even good girls get spankings on
    \noccassion, have you been a good girl or a bad girl? You can use a lot of
    \nplay acting here to build upon the scene itself, putting her in the
    \nmindspace you want her. Remember that once you have captured the mind, the
    \nbody follows along with it.<\/li>\n
  5. Use your primal inner animal inside yourself. Mix growling or moaning,
    \nor purring depending on your gender type. This can also add to the over all
    \nfeeling of what is going on.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    These are five key steps, but this is all about using your own creativity and
    \nyour own imagination. As spoken before, not only is this a tool and a good place
    \nto start the scene, but also a great place to check out new ideas, and watch how
    \nyour partner is going to respond to them. I sometimes will use concepts from the
    \nbook whether I am in Gor, I may pull things like the slave paces from the book.
    \nThe Story of O, I use the beginning words spoken to O when she’s being
    \nintroduced into the chateau about how her body is not hers anymore, and each
    \npart of her is to serve the Masters of the Chateau. This is is all play acting,
    \nand a bit of storytelling concepts, but once you have mastered this, this is a
    \nreally great place to begin “foreplay” which will be spoken more in later
    \npieces.<\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

    So get out there and strut your stuff. Remember, practice makes perfect. As
    \nyou do it more and more, you will grow more and more confident with yourself as
    \na Dominant and confidant with your parter till it will become almost automatic,
    \nand you will be able to pluck the very chords of her mind with your voice and
    \nyour touch.\u00a0 Good Luck!<\/p>\n

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