— Taken from Wikipedia
BDSM
- Bondage and Discipline (Physical Aspect)
- Dominance and Submission (Mental Aspect)
- Sadism and Masochism (Both)
“Bondage and Discipline”
Bondage and Discipline are two aspects of BDSM that do not seem to relate to one another because of the type of the activities involved, but they have conceptual similarities, and that is why they appear jointly. Contrary to the other two types, B/D does not define the Tops and Bottoms itself, and is used to describe the general activities with either partner being the receiver and the giver.
The term “Bondage” describes the practice of Physical restraining. Bondage is usually, but not always, a sexual practice. While bondage is a very popular variation within the larger field of BDSM, it is nevertheless sometimes differentiated from the rest of this field. Studies among BDSM practitioners in the US have shown that about half of all men find the idea of bondage to be erotic; many women do as well. Strictly speaking, bondage means binding the partner by tying their appendages together; for example, by the use of handcuffs or by lashing their arms to an object. Bondage can also be achieved by spreading the appendages and fastening them with chains to a St. Andrews Cross or spreader bars
The term “Discipline” describes the Psychological restraining, with the use of rules and punishment to control overt behavior. Punishment can be pain caused physically (such as caning), humiliation caused psychologically (such as a public flagellation) or loss of freedom caused physically (for example, chaining the submissive partner to the foot of a bed). Another aspect is the structured training of the Bottom.[
“Dominance and Submission”
Dominance and submission” (also known as D&s, Ds or D/s) is a set of behaviors, customs and rituals relating to the giving and accepting of control of one individual over another in an erotic or lifestyle context. We are now looking at the mental side of the lifestyle, or the Discipline aspect of the lifestyle. Dominance refers to a person who takes a “Dominant” or “Top” role over a person and the submissve side describes a person who takes the “lower” or “bottom” role in the relationship. These are the people who do not always consider themselves “physical”. This group may include the people who live the lifestyle in a 24/7 setting, or make the lifestyle a complete part of their lives. There are many individual characteristics, which you find on most bdsm checklists, which make up several different types of behaviors for which you find, most physical, some quite mental. Throughout these various activities, the Dominant requires certain behaviors out of the submissive.
Just like before, D/s can either be taken in short terms or what is known as a “scene”, where one person of the couple takes on one specific mental role, and the other person takes on the other mental role. However, just like spoken before, the D/s situation can become apart of their everyday lives, through the balanced sharing of what is known as a “Total Power Exchange”.
A total power exchange is sometimes confused as a submissive giving over everthing, however this is not the turth at all. It is a complex give and take entity, where both sides give and take. Each showing overall care and devotion to the other person where each compliments the other person.
In a D/s relationship, both parties take great care to learn about each other. There is quite a bit of negotiation which is taken place, either through a general understanding, or something through a formal agreement known as a “contract” or “slave or sub contracts”. Generally these last six months, some last longer, where after the period of time, the contract is revised, renewed, or discontinued.
Even as the relationship forms and the lives of the couple continue, there is always chances for changes to take place, due to changes in the lifestyles of the indivudials involved in the relationship, so it is the job of the Dominant in the position to constantly be reviewing the mental and physical health of their submissive or body, to make sure that everything is falling in the guidelines of SS&C.
“Sadism and Masochism”
Now we come to the last variation found within the triad of the lifestyle we known as BDSM. We come to the SM version of the triad, which is also known as S&M, or SM. The full word which makes up S&M is sadomasochism. Sadomasochism is made up of two direct parts, the Sadist and the Masochist.
This is a overall look at the “Bondage part” when it comes to describing people. This talks about the more “physical” aspect of the lifestyle. Sadism describes people who are referred to as sadists, who derive physical pleasure from inflicting physical pain to the bottom who is referred to as the masochist. Masochism is the direct opposite where it desribes the bottom, who is the Masochist, who derives physical pleasure from receiving or having physical pain inflicted on them.
The pain for which we are talking about here is pain which comes from physical activities which are “conscented” between the two parties. It does not describe the pain which comes from an accident, or a medical procedure.
The pain itself does not always have to be physical either, it can be mental through humiliation or degredation, however overall it is something for which is CONSENTED between the two parties involved here.
So as you can see, we get the triad of the bdsm emblem, or the bdsm lifestyle… bd ds sm, the letters which make up bdsm is what the three aspects of the lifestyle are made from.