BDSM Checklist

Checklist of the submissive:

 

 

For experience, YES or NO indicates if the submissive  has ever

  DONE that activity. N/A means it does not apply.  Willingness, indicates how the submissive  feels about DOING that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

    “?” means the submissive  doesn’t understand what the item is attempting to describe. NO means the sub will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

    Willingness quick-key:

? Don’t understand this item.

* I will do with current sex partner only.

NO I WILL NOT DO that item under ANY circumstances (a hard limit).

0 No desire, don’t like, will permit if special to Dom (a soft limit).

1 Don’t want to do, but will.

2 Willing to do, but has no special appeal.

3 Usually LIKE doing, on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 LIKE doing, would like it on a regular basis.

5 WILD TURN-ON, would like it as often as possible.

                                                  

                                    Experience     Willingness    Notes & Nuances

( yes/no)    (NO or 0-5)

 

Abrasion                                

Age play                                                         

Anal sex                                                                                                       

Anal plugs (small)                            

Anal plugs (large)                                                  

Anal plug (public, under clothes)    

Animal roles                                                                              

Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders)      

Aromas                                              

Asphyxiation                                                                                               

Auctioned for charity           

Ball stretching                                              

Bathroom use control                                     

Beastiality                                                                                   

Beating (soft)                                                               

Beating (hard)                                                

Blindfolds                                                                       

Being serviced (sexual)                             

Being bitten                                                                   

Breast/chest bondage                             

Breath control                                                 

Branding                                                                                         

Boot worship                                                   

Bondage (light)                                           

Bondage (heavy)                                            

Bondage (multi-day)                                 

Bondage (public, under clothing)    

Breast whipping                                           

Brown showers (scat)                                  

Cages (locked inside of)                   

Caning                                                            

Castration fantasy                                        

Catheterization                                         

Cattle prod (electrical toy)               

Cells/Closets (locked inside of)       

Chains                                                                                   

Chamber-pot use                                                      

Chastity belts                                   

Chauffeuring                                              

Choking                                                              

Chores (domestic service)                

Clothespins                                       

Cock rings/straps                              

Cock worship                                    

Collars (worn in private)                        

Collars (worn in public)            

Competitions (with other Subs)       

Corsets (wearing casually)               

Corsets (trained waist reduction)    

crosss-dressing                                   

Cuffs (leather)                                  

Cuffs (metal)                                         

Cutting                                                                             

Diapers (wearing)                                         

Diapers (wetting)                                          

Diapers (soiling)                               

Dilation                                            

Dildoes                                  

Double penetration                                       

Electricity                                                          

Enemas (for cleansing)                        

Eenmas (retention/punishment)         

Enforced chastity                                          

Erotic dance (for audience)             

daminations (physical)                              

Exercise (forced/required)         

Exhibitionism (friends)        

Exhibitionism (strangers)                

Eye contact restrictions        

face slapping                                           

Fantasy abandonment                            

Fantasy rape                                            

Fantasy gang-rape                                      

Fear (being scared)                                        

Fisting (anal)                                                       

Fisting (vaginal)                                        

Flame play                            

Following orders                                

Food play (cucumbers, sorbet…)     

Foot worship                                     

Forced bedwetting                                       

Forced dressing                                      

Forced eating                                             

Forced homosexuality                            

Forced heterosexuality                           

Forced masturbation                                 

Forced nudity (private)                           

Forced nudity (around others)         

Forced servitude                                       

Forced smoking                                            

Full head hoods                                            

Gags (cloth)                                                     

Gags (inflatible)                               

Gags (phallic)                                               

Gags (rubber)                                                  

Gags (tape)                                                           

Gas masks                                                                 

Gates of Hell (male)                                     

Genital sex                                                        

Given away to another Dom (temp)  

Given away to another Dom (perm)

Golden showers                                

Gun play                                                                    

Hairbrush spankings                                  

Hair pulling                                                     

Hand jobs (giving)                                      

Hand jobs (receiving)                               

Harems (serving w/other subs)        

Harnessing (leather)                                            

Harnessing (rope)                                   

Having food chosen for you             

having clothing chosen for you        

Head (give fellatio/cunnilingus)                 

Head (rcv fellatio/cunnilingus)     yes 5      

High heel wearing                                        

High heel worship                                       

Homage with tongue (non-sensual)    

Hoods                                                                                    

Hot oils (on genitals)                                  

Hot waxing                                       

Housework (doing)                                      

Human puppy dog                            

Humiliation (private)                                              

Humiliation (public)                                   

Hypnotism                                                           

Ice cubes                                                              

Immobilization                                 

Infantilism                                        

Initiation rites                                             

Injections                                

Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage 

Interrogations                                                    

Kidnapping                                                           

Kneeling                                                              

Knife play                                                                  

Leather clothing                                            

Leather restraints                                      

Lectures for misbehavior                 

Licking (non-sexual)                            

Lingerie (wearing)                                       

Manacles & Irons                                      

Manicures (giving)                                    

Massage (giving)                                        

Massage (receiving)                                 

Medical scenes                                  

Modeling for erotic photos                 

Mouth bits                                                    

Mummification                                              

Name change (for scene)                        

Name change (legal, permanant)    

Nipple clamps                                   

Nipple rings (piercings)                               

Nipple play/”torture”                                               

Nipple weights                                               

Oral/anal play (rimming)                 

Over-the-knee spanking                     

Orgasm denial                                           

Orgasm control                                          

Outdoor scenes                                          

Outdoor sex                                                         

Pain (mild)                                                                

Pain (medium)                                             

Pain (severe)                                       

Persona training (in scene)                 

Personality modification (RL)                      

Phone sex (serving Dom)                 

Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends)  

Phone sex (commercial provider) 

Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)   

Piercing (permanent)                       

Plastic surgery                                            

Prison scenes                                                    

Prostitution (public pretense)          

Prostitution (actual)                         

Pony slave                                                     

Public exposure                                         

Punishment Scene                                         

Pussy/cock whipping                                

Pussy worship                                             

Riding crops                                      

Riding the “horse” (crotch tort.)     

Rituals                                               

Religious scenes                                            

Restrictive rules on behavior           

Rubber/latex clothing                              

Rope body harness                                     

Saran wrapping                                                

Scarification                                                    

Scratching – getting                                 

Scratching – giving                                   

Sensory deprivation                                  

Serving                                      

Serving as art                                                   

Serving as ashtray                                         

Serving as furniture                         

Serving as a maid                                      

Serving as toilet (urine)                     

Serving as toilet (feces)                    

Serving as waitress/waiter               

serving orally (sexual)                         

Serving other doms (supervised)      

Serving other doms (unsupervised) 

Sexual deprivation (short term)         

Sexual deprivation (long term)        

Shaving (body hair)                                   

Shaving (genital hair)                             

Shaving (head hair)                               

Skinny-dipping                                            

Sleep deprivation                                     

Sleepsacks                                                      

Slutty clothing (private)                   

Slutty clothing (public)                       

Spandex clothing                                      

Spanking                                           

Speech restrictions (when, what)    

Speculums (Anal)                             

Speculums (vaginal)                              

Spitting                                                                      

Spreader bars                                            

Standing in corner                                        

Stocks                                                

Straight jackets                                      

Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)               

Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)

Strap-on-dildos (wearing)      

Strapping (full body beating)

Suspension (upright)                        

Suspension (inverted)             

Suspension (horizontal)                     

Supplying new partners for Dom     

Swallowing feces                                                     

Swallowing semen                                      

Swallowing urine                             

Swapping (with one other couple)  

Swinging (multiple couples)            

Tampon Training (in ass)                            

Tattooing                                           

Teasing                                                

TENS Unit (electrical toy)   

Thumbcuffs (metal)                         

Tickling                                             

Triple penetration                             

Urethral Sounds (metal rods)                      

Uniforms                                           

Including others                               

Vaginal dildo                                                

Verbal humiliation                                     

Vibrator on genitals                         

Violet Wand (electricial toy)            

Voyeurism (watching others)             

Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)      

Video (watching others)                   

Video (recordings of you)                 

Water torture                        

Waxing (hair removal)                                 

Wearing symbolic jewelery                 

Weight gain (forced)                        

Weight loss (forced)                         

Whipping                                                           

Wooden paddles                               

Wrestling                                           

 

Medical/ Physical Conditions to be Considered:

 

1}        Claustrophobic=   

 

2}        Water =   

 

3}        Home=

 

4}        Circulation=

 

 

 

5}        Bladder=  

 

 6}       Pains= 

 

7}        Sleep=  

 

8}        Eating=

 

10}      Emotions=

11}       Medicine=

12}      Other/Misc=