Scene Negotiation:
Scene negotiation is a form of communication between two or more consenting adults about what is going to transpire and take place during a scene. As the partners begin to grow with each other, this won’t always be necessary but when it comes down to beginning play, it is always a good idea, so both parties are informed and know what is going to transpire and take place. This is close to the concepts of consent within a play experience.
Things for which should be discussed
- Arrangement of rules – Who is going to be the top and who is going to be the bottom?
- Expectations and needs of both parties – The likes and dislikes
- Limits – Boundaries for which are set to what is acceptable and what is not.
- Types of play – what practices and techniques will be included in the play
- BDSM Gear and Attire – what materials, toys, clothing, will be used.
- Duration of the scene – How long and what time constraints are on the scene
- Health Concerns – Talking about things such as allergies, chronic diseases, STDS, medications and other medical and health concerns both physical and mental for which might be important to know.
- Safety Measures – what is provided and there if situations go wrong
- sexual Contact – what type of sexual activity is acceptable?
- Safe words or gestures – set of verbal or non verbal signs which will be used by the submissive to stop a scene.