Throughout my time on the online lifestyle, I feel that some submissives or slaves loose track of their sense of safety when they converse and interact with people online. I have seen many who will reveal information about themselves, personal information for which they might not necessary reveal to someone looking at them face to face who is a total stranger.
Even though it is online, you should still hold the same senses of safety for which you would int he real world. Does this mean to be paranoid? No, it does not but it also means to be careful about what information you reveal. Information about your personal life, including if you have children or not should not be shared with people for which you do not know. There are predators out there for which are seeking various trigger words and are looking for specific things for which to cling onto. Giving out information such as your phone number, even if it a cellphone can be used to reveal who you are and where you are from. It is very easy to trace and track a phone number through various means on the internet.
Again this doesn’t mean to be tight lipped and paranoid. It means to use proper street smarts and relying on common sense when you speak and interact with people.
There are things to look out for in dominants which you should be aware of.
- Refusing to take No for an answer
- Lack of following through
- Inconsistencies in what they say and do
- Anger
- Disrespect
- Short fuses
- How they treat and interact with people around them.
When you are getting to know someone, take time to be observant. Watch and pay attention to people around you. Watch how they interact with other people. A confident and respectful dominant will not try to belittle people. They will not try to put people down or push their idealistic and concepts on other people. They will be people who are open and suggestive and participate and hold other dominants around them with high regard and esteem as well as a high sense of honor.
Remember that only Dominants for which you choose to allow to be over you has the right to be over you. No man or woman has the right to force themselves upon you within the real world lifestyle. This would be considered abuse and rape.
Dominants will not be demanding or asking for personal information such as financial records, credit card numbers, social security numbers. These are things for which you should NEVER share for any reason whatsoever, until you are in a long term relationship and living with this person within their physical household or they are living with you.
You should also watch if Dominants are sharing information with you. Do they provide you with personal things about their lives or are they simply covering their lives in shadows but they are pushing for information from you? These are things for which you should always be observant about. You should also watch dominants and see if they are giving out too much information. You should also keep track of how consistent the information for which they are giving you is.
There are also dominants online who will make large chains of submissives or slaves. These are usually what we in the lifestyle refer to as collectors. They simply collect slaves and/or submissives for concepts of ego and to look bigger then they are to people.
You should have a firm understanding of being safe, being sane and consensual. Understand things like aftercare and safe play protocols before you embark on safety. You should never rely on someone completely until you get to know them.
Take time
Be Patient
and use common sense!