Before you begin to establish a set of rules for the slave, you both should have completed the “Goals” section, and have worked out the set of goals for the relationship. Knowing what you want and expect from them, as slaves, and want and expect from yourself, gives you a better foundation for obtaining it. By having those set of goals already established, the rules will be easy to establish. They aren’t just a set of things to turn the slave on, however, it doesn’t mean sexual stimulation is not part of the training, for it certainly is. After setting your goals, provide the slave with a set of behavioral rules to follow. You should discuss what type of rules the slave will have to follow before they sign the contract, however, they should not be apart of the contract themselves, as the contract is made to be simple, as suggested in the contract section.
Remember to keep rules simple and to start slowly, adding rules as time goes on, and the slave becomes more accustomed to them. Overwhelming the slave will only make them feel frustrated, and will only ask for trouble. Not only is it setting up the groundwork for the slave to fall, but it will also take you a long period of time to enforce those rules, where time is necessary for other things. You yourself need to know the rules inside and out, and if you don’t, then you will just fall flat on your face also. You must know them like the back of your hand, and much better then the slave, for you are the one whom will be enforcing them. If you overwhelm yourself, or have trouble remembering them, there is no way the slave will be able to.
When setting up rules, it is helpful to place the rules in a place where he/she will see them everyday. Post them in the kitchen, or in their sleeping quarters. You should setup a ritual for them to review them each day, to keep them fresh in their minds, so they know them, and know what is expected of them. Posting the rules, like posting the task schedule which will be discussed later on in this training program, provides them with another structure in their life, a aspect of control over them, and a visible reminder of their place.
Suggestions to think about when deciding upon rule.
Sleeping/Waking Rules:
- Does your slave sleep with you in your bed? If so, under what circumstances?
- Do they have a specific bedtime which they are to go to sleep?
- What do you want them to do before bedtime (i.e.: preparing the bed, kneeling)
- Is the slave restricted to the floor, or a pallet, or other bed?
- Do you want to wake them up, or do they need to get up on their own?
Bathing/Showering Rules:
- How often do they bathe/shower and when?
- Do you prefer them to take baths or just shower?
- What requirements do you have for removal of body hair?
- Are there any other cleaning requirements which you require of them? (For example, enemas)
- Do you want to take charge of when they go to the bathroom?
- Are they allowed to close the bathroom door?
- Are body inspections random or happen every time they clean themselves?
- Do slaves attend your bath?
- Are they to be on hand to bathe you?
- Should slaves be dismissed after running the bath and preparing?
- Is having the slave there a invasion of your privacy when taking a bath?
- How personal can they be?
Dressing Rules:
- Is the slave allowed clothing?
- If so what are they expected to wear? at home? at work? outside?
- Is the slave expected to wear make-up?
- Is the slave expected to wear a collar? at what times/all the time? or other jewelry?
- Does the slaver have permission to put on cloths?
- Do they need the Trainer’s approval on what to wear?
- Are they allowed underwear?
- How much responsibility do they have on your dress? cleaning? ironing? folding and storage? mending ect.?
- Is the slave responsible for dressing you?
- Undressing you?
- Polishing footwear?
Eating Rules:
- Does the slave cook?
- Do you require a particular table setting?
- What rules are there pertaining to cleanup?
- Do you expect your meals at a certain time?
- Is there a specific amount of time you wish your slave to eat?
- Do they have a meal plan they must follow?
- Do slaves eat at the table?
- Are they allowed the same food you eat?
- Do you require the slave to be there at your meals?
- Do you allow them to eat with you?
- Does the slave begin to eat before you? or do they have to wait for you to begin?
House Rules:
- Is the slave allowed to sit on furniture?
- Are they allowed in every aspect of the house?
- are they allowed people to visit them? (Family should always be allowed)
- Is the slave allowed access to the stereo, television, computer, books?
- Are viewing/using/listening choices need Trainer’s approval?
- Is the slave to keep up on news? or do you brief them on such?
- Are they expected to be at certain places at certain times?
- Are they to acknowledge your presence in the room somehow? (bow, kneel at your feet ect )
- Is there a place they are allowed to enter without knocking? or asking permission to enter?
- Do they have their own space? If so when can it be used and for what purpose?
- Is the slave allowed to rearrange things? decorate? move things round?.
Misc. Rules:
- Is the slave allowed to masturbate/cum without permission?
- Is the slave expected to behave in a certain manner for their Trainer’s sexual enjoyment?
- What health/exercise rules does the slave have?
- Is there any type of restrictions on the slave’s speech? and When and under what circumstances?
- is the slave allowed money?
- Is the slave allowed a paycheck? if so what is to be done with it?
- Will the slave have a budget? allowance?
- How will slave address and interact with other dominants?
- Is the slave restricted from use?
- How will the slave interact with other slaves?
- What housekeeping duties will the slave have?
- Is the slave required to have a job? what type of job? do they need your approval?
- Is there a safe word? What are the restrictions on using it?
- Is there certain things which happen when the slave is punished?
- Can slaves smoke? drink alcohol/coffee? Will these things be limited?
- Does the slave have to take certain meds? vitamins?
- Will the slave be allowed friends other then yours?
- Rules concerning family contact?