The first step into the training program is to get a understanding for your slave, and get a glance into his/her head. This is one of the most important steps in the training process, and step in controlling him/her. In the first stage of training, you must create a environment of “revelation and disclose”, in which your slave is not only allowed, but is also required to reveal her inner self to you, her thoughts, her feelings, her insights, her desires, and anything else which you may find out is per tent to know about your slave. In this section of training, you must fulfill the position of a counselor, and good listener, encouraging her to open up to you, drawing open doors in her mind, bringing down walls inside her, which she may never, even with her own self, explored before. It is through this kind of talking and communicating, that you will be able to get a bigger picture of whom your slave is, be able to understand her more, as a slave, and as a human being, and understand why your slave has the need to serve, and what is the best way to fulfill such. This is also the best way to find out which tools or actions she will need to be able to fulfill such a role. It is a good way to decide what levels of training which you wish to enroll with her, how much to push, and what to push.
In this position, you will need to know how to ask the right questions, what information to probe for, and how to probe for it. You will need to know how to get inside his/her head, because that is mostly where we will wield our control, which is inside her head. This procedure will not happen overnight. it will take a few days for the slave to become acquainted with you, and comfortable. This task should be done perhaps a bit each day. This will only be able to be determined on the first day of starting, to see how much she/he is willing to open up. Do not force him/her into a position which he/she begins to feel uncomfortable. This will only cause the girl/boy to tighten up their walls, and you will never get in. Remember the key word here is “balance”.
It is important to make the slave understand that nothing can be hidden from you, and that this stage is essential to the training. Unlike the slave, you are not required to lay down your thoughts on things before his/hers, or to give him/her any thought that you have any reason or indication that you will do so. it is inadvisable to interject your own thoughts and feelings during these times and sessions. The point is for the slave to begin the process of disclosure, and do so with the realization that he/she is obligated to do nothing less. There will be times when you can open your heart to your slave, but this is not the right moment.
Remember also, to make the slave feel comfortable, so they can open their heart to you. Do not start drilling them with a billion questions, or putting them on trial. You shouldn’t judge them at this point, only allowing them to talk and open up their heart and mind to you. Do not judge him/her for their past, experiences, feelings, or fantasies unless your expression is one in the positive. Your goal is to open him/her up to you. If you give any negative reaction, it will only cause them to close up more, and the exact opposite with what you want will happen. Be careful of your bodily expressions, specially those of your facial ones. Those showing bordem will show lack of interest, those showing shock. disbelief, humor, or any other distaste to register, will only do as stated, cause the person to clam up even more, and it shows lack of strength and composure on your part.
I have been a psychologist in training and schooling for quite some time. There are some great books on techniques such as this, and its advised for new Trainers to read up on it. This is not a easy task which to take in. The slightest mistake can set you back for a very long time. Remember this carefully.
Some basic guidelines to help with this disclosure process:
- Firstly, eliminate distractions such as the television, music, phones, computers, even the outside. The room should be as peaceful and quiet as you can make it, to give a feeling of peace, and allow you to focus totally on the slave. There should be nothing that distracts both you or herself/himself.
- The slave should be facing you kneeling, and in a relaxed position. Not held up tight or bent into a weird kneeling position.
- Do not allow the slave any clothing as clothing can sometimes become a “barrier”, and your purpose here is to break down barriers between you and him/her.
- Encourage the slave to speak freely to you. You may consider dropping the use of the title to help the flow of her thoughts come about. Again, your trying to make the girl relax, so she can virtually tell you her “life story”
Some things which you should keep in mind
- Observe the slave’s reactions, not just verbal ones, but also physical reactions. Does he/she seem unhappy, uncomfortable, Depressed. Does the slave shrug, look down and frown, close their eyes, move their eyes around trying to look at other thing to distract themselves. These are all signs of things which you need to dig a bit more to find out about.
- Keep the slave talking, but direct the focus of the conversation towards ideas, incidents and memories that might directly relate him/her to their need or desire of slavery. Ask questions that forces the slave to look deep down inside her heart, to examine her feelings, her emotions, and her fears. Help her discover and learn about why these feelings exist inside of her. However, keep her moving along as well. She will be telling you a great deal, but you do not need to know unnecessary information. What is necessary and unnecessary is totally up to you however.
- Retain and use the information which you find out. You may find out about fantasies, you may find out about past history, abuse which may lead to certain disciplines being not so good with her. You may find out about things she has dreamed about and understood.
The things which you achieve from this talk with be very valuable information. They will be the keys to the slave’s inner self, her mind. You will form a connection with the slave, which is not easily broken. You will get to know him/her. This concept of disclosure will promote a psychological dependency with you. He/She will have such a tight bond towards you, a physical and mental bond, which will allow him/her to be a true and total servant to you.