The relationship between a dominant and a submissive is a complex and complicated one at times. There are many different avenues to the relationship and they take time to establish and build. All relationships start out with the first meeting. These guidelines and procedures are suggestions on how to conduct a proper first time meeting. You should always keep these in mind when you are preparing and going out to see someone for the first time. They are here to keep you safe, so nothing will happen to you.
Before you even decide or think about meeting someone for the first time, take time to get to know them. Listen to them, look for things which might not be the same, or changes in the story the person is wielding.
Now you have decided your going to go and meet this person you have met through long distance contact, these are some things you should be aware of.
RULE NUMBER ONE: Meet in a PUBLIC place
Meet your potential dominant partner in a public place. The first meeting is strictly social and a getting acquainted opportunity. This should be made very clear at the outset, and any effort by the dominant partner to “seduce” the submissive should be seen as an act of bad faith and indication of a lack of trust worthiness.
Recommended public places: An airport with lots of security around or a public mall with lots of security around and people who are trained to watch out for things and be observant.
RULE NUMBER TWO: SAFETY CALLS
A trust person should be selected as your safety call. This person should be completely aware and kept up to date on where you are going and the schedule you are following. A set time should be made for this call and at the end of the meeting to confirm that everything has gone ok and that you are alright. Establish a series of “Code Words” or phrases which might be casual but might mean that you are in danger and for that person to contact help. These should be something which might not be picked up right away by the person you are with like “how are the dogs doing?” even if you do not have dogs. This should be something which the person you are calling understands clearly as your call for help.
RULE NUMBER THREE: KEEP IT CASUAL
There should not be any specific type of play at he first meeting. Use this time to get to know each other and spend time with each other. The dominant should never push to go off and play immediately and you should take to time to get to know who they are. Never put pressure on a submissive during the first meeting.
RULE NUMBER FOUR: HAVE A PLAN
You should always have as plan and a way to get away if needed. Ensure you have proper money and anything else you might need if you need to get away. You should have a good schedule of what is going on or where you are going. Never ever trust someone completely or rely on them on a first meeting.