Sexuality Training

The sexual relationship between a Dominant and the slave is one of the deepest form you can find. In a healthy Dominant/slave relationship, both parties achieve their satisfaction from each other. Their interaction differs then normal relationship. The slave is to learn that their release is based upon the wishes of You. You now control such as you control every other aspect of their life. Their sexual release is no longer a right, but is a privilege to them. It comes to their benefit but your pleasure. Most times, it is a slave’s highest honor to give pleasure to their Dominant.

Each sexual relationship is different depending on the wants and the needs of the couple involved. Do not expect the slave to turn away from their own need for physical release, however control it. You should not allow yourself to be manipulated by such a need. Give the slave release as generously as the slave’s behavior merits. You should use such as a reward for the slave, teaching the slave that it is given cause You want it to be given, and is not something for which they will be able to demand, no matter how much they beg for it. However there is always a balance. Do not make the slave become frustrated that it begins to hinder the relationship which you two have. Every slave has psychological needs, and part of being a Trainer and a Dominant is to understand these needs.

Due to health conditions, a slave should be allowed to express concerns during such sexual asks, and be allowed to be dismissed from such. Specially during a illness, it can be damaging to the slave’s body to perform under certain circumstances. This is a health risk which should not be taken away from the slave. You both should go through a serious of blood tests before beginning sexual training, to check for sexually transmitted diseases and other forms of diseases which can be transmitted. You both should be willing to disclose such information with each other for health reasons. You should inform the slave that there will be times, that the slave will have to perform sexual acts that might new to the slave, and possibly uncomfortable, but should be reassured that your intent is not to harm her physically. You should avoid things such as rape scenes with slaves whom are not sexual experienced. This type of scene could leave very large psychological ramifications upon the slave.

Although, Sexual Pleasure on demand seems quite natural to a Master/slave relationship, it is nothing more then a fantasy. You should not confuse the word “control” and “force”. You should never violate a slave’s body in any way shape or form. Even if the slave has agreed that he/she may not refuse you, you should always respect the slave’s dignity as a human being, and not force yourself upon him/her. Remember that D/s is safe, sane and consensual. These three highest policies should always be upheld within slavery. Rape is illegal even in D/s.

Every now and then, you may loose your ability to function, due to illness, stress, or other means. You should try to distance yourself from what is happening to you, in order to complete the training. You may loose the ability to get erect, but that is not important in this aspect of the training. You should teach your slave how you want your him/her to use their body, their hands and their mouth. You should teach the slave how to position themselves and how to respond. Some slaves may respond in different ways. Some may be fearful of sexual service. You should take a good look at how the slave responds, verbally and physically as well as emotionally. You should find out how he/she reacts and then work to enhance that reaction.

Some guidelines on sexuality training

• For a male training a female slave, purchase a dildo which approximates the size and shape of your own sexual organ, so that the slave can practice her oral techniques. By watching her do this, you can step back from the situation, issue directions, and teach her how you wish such done.
• You should use the dildo and position it properly the way you wish such to be positioned, so you can teach the slave how which to position yourself when you wish to be pleasured.
• You should teach the slave how to remain focused on you rather then becoming lost in his/her own pleasure. Stimulate the slave if you notice the performance becoming more technical then passionate, and then terminate the stimulation if the passion overrides the technical technique. Remember to teach the slave the balance.
• Assign “homework” for the slave to do and practice. There are various websites and books on various techniques. There are sets of guidelines called the karma-sutra, which are various sexual positions. This is good reading material in which for the slave to read and learn more how which to pleasure and please you. Have the slave do some research, and then demonstrate what it is that they have learned.
• You should not criticize a slave’s performance. You should only critique it. The slave should not be allowed to continue something which is not bringing you pleasure, but if you continue to criticize the slave, the slave will feel that they are not pleasing, and the relationship will be greatly psychologically damaged.

Orgasm with Permission

• The art of orgasming with permission is a basic concept which is fairly easy, and well known through out the world of slavery. It is simply not allowing the slave to orgasm without gaining permission from you. It reminds the slave that their pleasure is only if you wish such. It teaches them that their pleasure and release comes from you. It is something which they cannot demand.
• The art of orgasming with permission is a basic concept which is fairly easy, and well known through out the world of slavery. It is simply not allowing the slave to orgasm without gaining permission from you. It reminds the slave that their pleasure is only if you wish such. It teaches them that their pleasure and release comes from you. It is something which they cannot demand.
• The slave should always ask in a full sentence, and in a voice loud enough to be heard over the various other sounds which are going on. The art of using a full sentence and posing the question reinforces that the pleasure is subjected to the Trainer/Dominants whims. There are some slaves whom which loose the ability to speak during sexual encounters, however a fully focused slave should have no issues with such. If this is just impossible, and for some it might just very well be, you should replace the question with a hand gesture, or movement in which uses the same energy a full sentence would.
• You should not overdo it. There are times when you want to exhaust your slave with orgasms, but the slave should be denied orgasms occasionally, to draw upon the fact that they are given in reward. A sexually stimulated slave is more attentive and a more submissive creature. Teach your slave that arousal does not equal release.
• Remember that at times holding a orgasm can get very painful for the body. It causes muscles to work overtime, and thus can be damaging. There will get to the point where a orgasm will not be able to be withheld back, but with proper training, this can be increased over time. Slaves should be punished for prematurely orgasming, however keep this in mind.
• In the early stages of training, the slave may make mistakes. Devise a method for punishing your slave if the slave releases without proper permission. Corporal punishment does not work for this, so don’t even try it. Spanking your slave during times or arousal will only teach the slave to associate pain with pleasure, and the opposite effect will happen. This is something you may want to teach the slave later on, but this won’t work for this situation. One punishment could be to spend twenty four hours stimulating the slave to the point of orgasm but not allowing the slave release. You could come up with a word which expresses your disappointment in the slave. You should find a punishment which works for the both of you.

Orgasm on Demand

This is a very difficult technique in which to master and takes a lot of time and patience to actually get through. Not all slaves will be able to achieve this rate of training, as some people’s bodies cannot do it, but it is not something in which you should not try either. The art of release on demand is simply as it is stated, to teach the slave how to orgasm out demand. This has to do with teaching the slave how the body actually functions and works when they are orgasming.

• Begin by first training the slave to not release without being granted permission. When you have fully mastered the previously mentioned technique, begin to stimulate her in situations which are not sexual, for example, like driving the car, or just sitting round, during a movie at the theater which is purely action. You should be able to manipulate the slave’s body with your hand until the slave asks to release, and initially all the slave to do so each time.
• After a time, wait several seconds to a minute before giving the slave permission to release. You should continue to stimulate during this time, and then give your permission.
• Once you have done this, deny the slave permission, and then immediately remove your hand away. You then should give the slave permission to release, or deny the slave and continue the stimulation. The sudden removal of your hand and then giving the slave permission, will begin to adapt the slave’s body to orgasm without the stimulation.
• Next issue an order to release immediately after pulling your hand away. At that point, the slave is releasing without direct contact. Lengthen the time between the release, and the removal of the contact.
• Eventually you will be able to issue the order long after the stimulation has stopped. At that point, you may be commanding the slave to release even before any stimulation. If this does not work, repeat the last step and try again. A slave trained to release is able to achieve orgasm anytime and anywhere, and can even be walking down the street and not loose pace during the orgasm.

The final thing to talk about in this training is you should never allow the slave to initiate the sexual contact. This will begin to put them on even footing with you. They will begin to feel that they are in control and it will hinder everything else which you have been working on. You may give them certain things in which they can approach you with such desires. Some things are like placing a ribbon in the hair, or offering a specific piece of fruit. Some people allow the slave a specific position which displays themselves, to demonstrate such a need for such contact, however these techniques always keep you in control. Do not always give into these signs.

You must remember that the slave will become dependant upon you now even for such little things as this. They may seem like big things in the end run but their are not. The need for sexual desire is a strong part of our psychological background. A frustrated slave whom has not had sexual contact for awhile, will begin to have emotional problems. You are responsible for the slave’s well being.