The following guide is not for the light of heart. Do not begin this program lightly. Take time to read through these scrolls, and understand what this all about before you embark upon this journey. This is in no shape or form, a guide to the BDSM scene or for just average weekend play partners. This guide is a structured and truncated guide to a actual way of life, a way to actually live and be, and is intended for those whom which to divulge more into the life of Mastery and slavery, throughout their entire lives. It is a very strict guideline, based upon the rituals and codes of the Old School beliefs, a structured type of d/s which existed into the early years of history, started over in the early years of England, and still in several places is performed. These guides have been modified and written by myself, and structured to my own forms and beliefs. Not everything here will work for you, as this is meant nearly as a guide for those interested in the structured lives of M/s (Master/slave).
Owning and training of a slave is very serious and complicated business. Before embarking on a training program, you must decide for yourself what you want and how long you want it. When you have accepted a slave, you must understand that not only has she given up just her freedoms to you, but she has given up her life to you as well in many aspects. This is a risky society we live in, and in many times can lead to danger if not done correctly and properly. Once accepting a slave, you have gone ahead and accepted someone whom will now be “dependant” upon you for his/her every needs and wants. When standing over someone as Master, is probably the greatest responsibility a Dominant can accept over someone else. It is very much similar to standing over a child, in many regards, however unlike such a relationship, as time goes on, your burden of responsibility for the daily life of the child becomes less and less as the child grows up. For a slave, this burden remains constant throughout their entire lives.
Before embarking on this journey with another, you must understand and take a look at your own self. You as a Master/Mistress of a slave, must understand your own self. You must be able to look deep inside yourself, your inner spirit, and harness the power which is inside you, not just to control the other person, but also to control yourself. For One to be able to Master another, they must beforehand be able to Master themselves in “Mind, Spirit, and finally body”. Unlike a play partner, or “bottom”, a slave is the property of the Master or Mistress, not in a legal sense but more or less in a social sense and in spirit. This position is often challenging for both parties, and requires allot of strength on both sides, a lot of understanding and a lot of discipline on both sides. Training can become very tedious at times. You must always keep the atmosphere of training above the slave’s head. You must always take charge and maintain a sense of authority over him or her. If you ignore a slave, or allow training to lack in any shape or form, you will be left with a slave whim’s needs are not met, and in order to gain those needs she will do things and misbehave to seek them. Training is a very difficult task, and takes awhile to maintain but can be brought down like a house of cards with one swoop of the wind.
The ultimate goal to training is very much like what the poem states at the beginning of this passage. The goal here is to enhance qualities of the submissive’s behavior that “already” exist in the slave, so that she becomes more comfortable with herself, has a higher level of self-esteem and self respect, and is able to embrace and celebrate those qualities. His/Her ability to serve you with grace and dignity will follow. We do not necessary change the canvas, or the clay’s physical attributes, or what it is made of, or the actual physical qualities of the musical paper, we only enhance them, shape and mold them.
Do not be mistaken that this journey you embark will be easy. A set of rules, repeated punishments, or anything preset and written like a “slave contract”, will somehow create a good slave. You cannot throw everything at them, and expect them to be a good slave right off the bat. Just like anything which is taught or learned, it takes time for the mind to harness it, and draw such out. Like playing a musical instrument, it takes practice, not just for the submissive but for you as well. This is a relationship, it is not like learning to ride a bike. Mistakes can be devastating to the relationship at hand. Remember always that you are dealing with another human bringing, whom has feelings and emotions of his or her own. A good slave is not a human being whom has been broken in any way, but one whose choices have been reinforced and solidified, one whom has been given every opportunity to grow and become better in their choices.
You will find yourself filling many shoes for your submissive. There will be many jobs which you need to play out, and commit to. There are many tasks which you need to carry forth the role for. These tasks are not easy, and in many shapes and forms can be as commanding as the actual training does. Being a trainer takes allot of skill and allot of strength in a person. Here is a list of some of the roles, which you as a Training Dominant will have to carry out:
- Teacher – Teaching the submissive what it is that you desire from her….
- Counselor – Being there to listen to her and help with her emotional wants
- Parent – The role to a Owner is not very different then a parent….
- Disciplinarian – There maybe times when discipline is necessary
- Mentor – Training has to do with learning, and being a mentor..
- Friend – Friendship is important at the start of any relationship.
- Lover – Feelings and Emotions always play part in the training.
These are some of the major roles which a Trainer must take on. To make a good slave, we must be able to carry out and play each of these roles fluently with the submissive. We can never neglect the jobs and duties of either of these roles, as they will always play out not just in the training, but as times grows on and if you choose the submissive for yourself, during the lives which you carry out. Some trainers do not believe that “love” plays apart in training. I do not see how such can be without it. A D/s relationship is based upon five pillars, and for me, all of these pillars must exist for a relationship to be healthy and to work, even in a training atmosphere.
These pillars are:
Respect, Trust, Honesty, Love, and Obedience
So, there you have it, the groundwork and the basics for D/s training.