“Punishments” is one of the many tools which Dominants have in their toolbox for teaching and controlling our submissives out there.
Let us begin with a brief definition of what “Punishment” really means. Punishment is the art of correcting a submissive/slave from doing something wrong. It is correcting behaviors which we as Dominants don’t approve of.
For example, let us say that we give a rule to our submissives that they have to be in bed by 10pm and they agree to that rule. The submissive reports that she/he forgot about the rule and went to bed at 1am in the morning, which is deliberately against the Dominants rule. We would use some form of punishment in order to get across to the submissive, that we do not approve of this behavior, so we choose to “punish” them.
One of the key points which was always drilled through my head is “Let the punishment ‘fit’ the crime”.
So, what exactly is considered a punishment?
Like most things, society tends to have quite a crude overview of what our lifestyle really is about. You ask around about punishments and the first thing which usually drops into people’s head that punishments tend to require something painful like caning, whipping or down right spanking.
In truth and reality that is not always necessary for a punishment. The end goal for a Dominant when it comes to punishing, is we want something which will stick in the submissive’s head and they will ‘remember’ it. Remember, we’re trying to correct behaviors which we do not approve of, so we want something which will last, something the submissive will remember.
Does this require pain all of the time?
The answer to this question is “No”. I actually tend to find punishments which are creative and just out there, are those which tend to get remembered the most. A spanking or a caning can easily become forgotten, but if you build on something which makes the submissive/slave think, you got a better chance of them remembering it.
Just recently, I was djing for a place and made a direct comment that I wasn’t going to take “Disney Songs” as requests. One of the submissives thought it would be humorous and begin to mouth off Disney songs privately to me. This of course annoyed me to some degree, so how exactly did I choose to respond to it?
Would spanking or caning her be the right response to this, or is there something else which I could of done to get the point across?
I choose the take one of those old fashioned mickey mouse hats you find in the 90s or 80s and give it to the submissive to wear for a week’s time, informing her that if anyone of the lifestyle confronts her and asks about the hat, that she would have to explain to those people, what exactly it meant and what it’s purpose is. This keeps what had happened fresh in the submissive’s mind, and makes the punishment a bit more “fun and playful” verses “painful and dark”.
There are many different ways which you can go about punishing a submissive or slave.
- Make them wear something unusual like the mickey mouse ears, or a clown’s nose.
- Write something on their bodies which they will see when they get undressed
- Adding things or taking things away, such as panties in either sense. Perhaps making them wear panties if they are not used or haven’t for awhile or visa verse.
- “Writing Lines on the chalk board”
- Kneeling and repeating a phrase over and over again.
- Dying their hair a specific color, perhaps something they don’t entirely like.
- Taking their cellphone away (Omg how would they go about their day!)
- Having them sleep on the couch or in another room and not with you.
These are pretty much off the top of my head in a span of two minutes of thinking. As you can see none of these punishments have anything to do with pain.
I remember a time in elementary school where I put a frog inside a teacher’s desk. I had to stay after school and write “I shall not put animals inside the teacher’s desk” about 1000 times on the chalk board. You can bet your bottom, I didn’t do it again.
Just remember a few key points. “Creative Non painful” punishments tend to lead into the mental realm of things. Make sure just as spoken above, the punishment fits the crime. You should also as a dominant, follow the very basic fundamental rules when it comes to punishing a submissive or slave. Make sure you provide aftercare, don’t over do it because a submissive or slave can tend to take things out on themselves far more then we ever could.
Punishments can be fun and creative as long as you get your lesson across, and correct the behavior your correcting. If you can do such in a non impact, non painful way and still get the lesson into the submissive or slave’s head, I say the more creative the better. At the end, it always leads to having good stories to leave behind and a good memory to remember. The key point here is remembering, so they won’t do it again.